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Friendship Made Easy in your 50s

Hey! I'm Janey Carr

I'm a friendship enthusiast, creator and connector helping single women transitioning in their 50s to build real friendships for deeper connection. Subscribe to our weekly email for thoughtful, no fluff content delivered straight to your inbox.

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It's not just you

Hey Reader​ I observed two young girls who just met become friends on the park swings... I have a cat named Whiskers" I have a cat too. He's called Snowball." Want to draw cats together?" Yes! We can make a big picture with both our cats." They can be best friends, just like us." If only making friends was that easy as adults. These days, I can't even fit on the swings. Why is it so hard to make friends as an adult? This is a question I see all the time. It's because once you leave school...

about 5 hours ago • 2 min read

Sometimes, I didn't want to go. I just wanted to stay curled up in bed on those cold winter mornings. But I had a coffee group to host. Organising it was easy; dealing with the persistent nerves about how it would all turn out - not so easy. I was hyper-aware of the many moving parts (invisible to most) - juggling the diverse personalities and dynamics of the group to ensure everyone enjoyed themselves while managing my introverted energy. And so my fear of the outcome never really...

8 days ago • 2 min read

I was on my second rodeo to the UK when, to my relief (and joy), I was invited into the inner sanctum of a large group of ex-pats. Over the years, I'd collected friends from various places: different jobs, travels, parties, and mutual connections. And there were times when I wished we could all merge into one big group so I could hang out with all my favourite people at once. But they were a diverse bunch who didn't always gel. (You know how awkward 21st parties can be). So, at first,...

14 days ago • 1 min read

The list of friends I want to catch up with has been steadily amassing since December, and I'm failing miserably to just keep up with everyone never mind 'do life' together. It's been a juggling act between school holidays, weekend sporting regattas, family commitments, household chores, and business. And I bet I'm not the only one feeling this way, huh? Honestly, it's been tough balancing everything whilst wrestling with the rising guilt of not spending enough time with new friends -...

21 days ago • 2 min read

My 95-year-old grandmother had been admitted to the hospital the night before with a heart attack. I was on my way to meet my son there. The plan was simple: I'd text him when I was en route so he'd leave school, and we'd arrive together so he wouldn't get lost in a sea of wards. Only I'd left my phone at home - which also happens to be my wallet. (Nice one, Janey. Turn up empty-handed)! I needed to borrow a phone asap to avoid any further fiasco, but the fear of asking a stranger and...

29 days ago • 2 min read

Yesterday, I embraced a return to childlike playfulness, spending an afternoon with a friend after a spontaneous invitation to 'scrapbook'. It's not my thing, but I thought, why not?! Try something new, and spend quality time with a friend to boot. As someone who's usually laser-focused on juggling multiple tasks, it was a refreshing change and a rare opportunity to 'just be' without the constant need 'to do'. And it was the perfect chance to deepen a friendship with one-on-one time, a step...

about 1 month ago • 1 min read

Happy (belated) New Year! We didn't manage to get out and celebrate in the end - torrential rain coupled with my surf-life saver husband involved in the rescue of two young men down at the beach (the third not so lucky, sadly) put a dampener on plans. So... much time for reflection during a sleep-deprived week camping up North with the masses (including the design flaws on our new tent). Looking back at 2023, I unearthed little nuggets of gold amongst the coal that I hadn't stopped to...

about 2 months ago • 1 min read

Christmas of 2021, as we emerged from the COVID blur, I decided to resurrect my long-dead social life. All my treasured girlfriends were overseas or tied up with their own families, and I didn't see them much. So, I set an intention for 2022. I like to begin each new year by starting down the road to a desirable destination rather than trodding down 'ground-hog' lane, getting nowhere fast, and wishing things were different. You can't change your destination overnight, but you can change your...

3 months ago • 2 min read

Call me boring, but I'm giving Christmas parties a swerve this year - opting for the cosy comforts of home over small talk with strangers and the torment of tasty morsels and open bars I can't indulge in. Besides, I've had my share of memorable parties - although some, like the one in my late 20s with my colleague Denice, I'd rather forget. Denice was the ideal '+1', with a vibrant personality that people were naturally drawn to, allowing me to tuck comfortably into her shadow and...

3 months ago • 2 min read

I baked for the first time since I don't know when on Sunday in my new air fryer - Cranberry Oatie Balls without the cranberries. Worked a treat! So I kept going... Middle Eastern Legume Salad for lunch, Roasted Tumeric chickpeas for snacking, and Miso Pumpkin Soup for dinner. (Let me know if you want the recipes - they're so good). I felt virtuous on top of the green smoothie for breakfast, BUT I had devoured half a Green & Blacks in two minutes flat the day before to perk me up. the...

3 months ago • 1 min read
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